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ORIGINAL: Gloryandgrace

A pastors wife still wear cute shoes?

Ive not read the book, but Im willing to guess this is another bit of trite silliness.

No one cares about the pastors wifes shoes. No pastors wife asks permission to buy what shoes she likes anymore than the pastor asks what color sheets to buy or what kind of jeans to wear.
These kind of books dont tell women anything they dont already know.

So why read them? Because Im willing to guess that this pastors wife has a fan club and her fan base like the justifications for 'shopping for princesses' and having cute shoes while doing it.

Methinks this is more of an excursion into why its important to spend money on what makes a woman feel good, look good and then not feel guilty about it. No book need be written about that. That is done everyday, all day by millions of women.

A book on justifying why a Christian woman should imitate the godless women in our culture is completely unnecessary.

Think for a moment, no unsaved women are attracted to Jesus Christ because Christian women can buy cute shoes. No godless women are convicted by Christian women because they can pamper themselves and have both church and "cuteness" too. Imitating the world doesnt draw the unsaved woman to Christ, she already has cute shoes, cute dresses and nice hair. What does a Christian woman need to be told in a book to do in order for thier lives to be 'pleasurable'?

I submit to you women need something far greater and more beautiful than cute shoes and clothes to make them passionate about Jesus Christ, an ungodly women needs something far more diverse from 'cultural patterns' they know very well to turn their heads toward Christ.

Im not against cute shoes, clothes or jewelery, Im against dumb Christian-imitating-the-world
books that innoculate Christian women with justifications to 'love the world' and further provide no example of what it means to love, serve and sacrifice for Jesus. Pastors wife or not, I dont see the need of such information.

John

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I didn't download the excerpt, but from what I could tell from the page the link goes to, the book is about dealing with the unrealistic, unbiblical expectations that some congregants have on pastors' wives ... and sadly, sometimes the pastors' wives have on themselves.

You may think some of it is silly, Gloryandgrace... and any message about pampering themselves might just be that: silly... but any parts of the book that help women in ministry break down the unrealistic images they have of others and of themselves would be at least a bit helpful.


Sometimes men do not understand the pressures that women "feel" from others or place on themselves... And yes, it's "silly" that women do that. But it's something we struggle with. And the fact that we do have these feelings isn't silly. It's reality.


I think the title of the book points to that idea that some have ---> that pastors' wives aren't supposed to have nice, pretty things... that their sacrifices must appear a certain way and take certain forms. That sort of legalism isn't a help in ministry; it's a millstone that women do not need.

I doubt that the book really is saying, "Yes, go buy cute shoes. You need to have cute shoes."

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Lisa is a stunning brunette who seems well educated and an excellent communicator. This is my concern; that her beauty, her financial capabilities and sense of style depict what it is to be an affluent pastors wife. No matter what she teaches, it will be hard for any woman Christian or not to 'sacrifice' for Jesus Christ. Why? Because she will have women wanting what he has and wanting to be like her. But, not the "Christ-in-her" but the outward. Not sacrifice but affluence.

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I didn't download the excerpt, but from what I could tell from the page the link goes to, the book is about dealing with the unrealistic, unbiblical expectations that some congregants have on pastors' wives ... and sadly, sometimes the pastors' wives have on themselves.

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To reinterate, carnal mindsets in women can and should be addressed by the leaders in sermonic form. False spirituality, false humility, legalism that masks itself behind some of these 'judgments' to pastors wives or other women account for the oppression that a woman encounters and I hate it.

John